What this guy did to the OP? That was dishonest, and whether she was a swinger herself even before meeting him (we know she wasn’t, but what if that was a complete non-issue?) the dishonesty itself merits being dumped. Good job, OP, lying by omission on something of this proportion deserves nothing less. Not only that, but he thought it okay to try to keep up his lifestyle behind her back. (if he was really seeking advice on how to broach the subject, it seems a lot easier to ask the swinging ex he slept with in person, rather than a complete stranger on what is the equivalent to us nonswingers of a dating website). But that is my biased opinion, since I have lots of contact with people in nonmonogamous relationships, and the main tenet as they all say is, communication first and foremost, mutual love, caring, and respect next. OP got none of these.

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Maargen says:
August 10, 2011 at 11:56 am
I’ve never found monogamy difficult either, but what is this anecdotal evidence worth? There are many people who do find it difficult. This is not a moral lapse on their part, or due to any personality quirks. Monogamy is a standard imposed on us by society.



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